Nice guys don’t always make great Dads
I’m being deliberately provocative here I know. I’ll explain myself shortly. Just recently I’ve been having a few issues with Galla. She’s not been feeling 100% with a cold so already isn’t in the best of moods. Like her Dad gets when he gets poorly unfortunately.
The morning debate
Here’s an example of some of the exchanges we’ve been having:
Me: Ok sweetie, time to get up, shall we go downstairs and have some breakfast?
Me: Ok, let’s just get up, perhaps you’d like a wee wee?
Galla: NO, I don’t WANT a wee wee.
Me: Ok, then let’s just go downstairs for breakfast
Galla: BUT I NEED A WEE WEE!
Me: Ok let’s have a wee wee
Galla: NO, I DON”T WANT ONE.
etc, etc ad infinitum
What’s this about nice guys?
Most of you with toddlers out there will recognise this sort of discourse (I hope, otherwise I really will feel crap). Some of you will already see my mistake. My wife pointed it out to me.
In life when I make a decision I’m quite quick to change my mind. This makes me incredibly easy-going (and easy to live and be married to according to my wife).
But children need consistency
Aha, and here’s the point. What’s made me what I am to this point in my life is my undoing as a Dad. Generally I just want an easy life so I am very accommodating but children need consistency. They need to know where they stand and when you make a decision for them you need to stick to it. It’s in every book that either of us has read. It’s in all the parenting blogs but I seem to keep on missing the point.
What happens now?
I need to learn to hold firm on my decisions and stop doubting myself. Even if that means tantrums from the toddler, in the end she will benefit from this consistent approach. If she knows that when I say we’ll do something we do it, then hopefully the tantrums will get less as she’ll realise there’s no point.
You’d think at 47yrs old I’ll have worked these things out but nothing prepares you for having children, it’s a whole new learning curve.
Hopefully I’ll just get the hang of it by the time Georgie becomes a toddler…..oh help!
Let me know what you think?