It’s a young man’s game – being a new Dad in your 40s.
Let’s just be clear, I’m not Rod Stewart. I was 44 when our first child was born, I’m now 47 with a soon-to-be threenager and a 9 month old and I’m tired.
If other bloggers out there 15 years my junior are writing about new parent tiredness then it’s no wonder. Plus my knees are always killing me, no one told me just how much time you will spend on your knees with small children (literally and metaphorically), just consult Dr Google;
“Somewhere between the late 30s and age 50, a large percentage of active people (particularly those who’ve participated in high impact sports) will begin to notice knee pain”
Sigh, better keep in taking the Glucosamine & Chondroitin tablets.
What just happened?
When you’re single and meet that special someone in your 40s, things tend to move pretty quickly. It’s been four and a half years since I met my lovely wife and in that time, we’ve moved in together, gotten married and had two children. Oh and I gave up work to be a stay at home Dad. I’m still wondering what’s happened.
How long until we have our old life back?
Most of my friends children are teenagers. Their children retreat to their rooms at night to chat to their friends online. If they wanted to go out for a meal they can just do that. Without finding a babysitter. That’s right, just head out; “kids, we’re just popping down the road for a drink and a bite to eat, yes we won’t wake you when we come back. No we won’t be like last time, promise”. Then they still have to drag their kids out of bed in the morning.
I’m not as old as our Rod or Alec, but when I first realised that when my eldest turns 16 I’ll be 60….I cried.
ON THE PLUS SIDE.
I’ve lived a lot of life and as Frank said “regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again, too few to mention”. I’m not a young man wondering if I’m missing out on anything.
Being older parents and further along career wise we’ve been able to afford for me to give up work and stay at home. Something I am ALWAYS grateful for….sore knees notwithstanding.
And while one of my friends is currently going through a divorce after 17 years of marriage, we’ll be too old to worry about that sort of thing in 17 years time.
I had a vasectomy last year, there was quite a bit of discussion at the clinic beforehand on being certain about the decision. What if circumstances lead me to want to start another family?
No thank you, I’m 47 now, are you KIDDING?!