In praise of working mums
When was the last time you really appreciated your wife or partner?
When I tell people what I do I keep getting asked “How are you getting on?” This is usually said with some concern, head tipped to one side. You know the look, It’s as if being a man and giving up my career to look after my children was a really tough decision.
Let me tell you something, it wasn’t. My career wasn’t really getting anywhere. Even when I have particularly challenging days at home I remember the 9-5 grind behind a desk and think how fortunate I am.
But does anyone ever think about the mother who works full time to support her family? Probably not. My wife gets to see our girls for maybe 30mins a day. Either she decides to go to work later and help get them up in the morning or she rushes home in the evening to catch bathtime and bedtime. For a mother (or any working parent) that’s hard.
I try to steer her away from online articles which paint the picture of a mother’s place is in the home. “working mothers risk damaging their childs prospects” ((c) most popular online Daily in the UK anyone?).
I really didn’t appreciate when I started this journey just how hard she works at both her jobs. When a Dad is the stay at home parent and the Mum goes to work, the focus appears to be on the sacrifice the man is making and not the equally big sacrifice the woman has made.
I just wanted to take time to appreciate what my wife does. She maintains a successful career, supports myself and our two daughters financially (and emotionally). And at the same time is an awesome mother, cook, counsellor, gardener…the list goes on.
My wife and I are very lucky to operate in a virtuous circle, me doing what I do enables her to do what she does….supporting her family and enabling me…etc
Thank you darling.