Sleep training with baby no.2
When Galla was born both me and my wife were really keen to get her into a good sleep routine. I was the stricter parent when it came to her waking up during the night, I would try to settle her in her cot whereas my wife prefered to pick her up to cuddle her to sleep. As an aside, read “Twelve hours sleep by twelve weeks” by Suzy Giordano.
It has some really useful tips on sleep training your little one. In the book it suggests when your baby is crying place your hand on their chest and say soothing words like “it’s OK, Daddy’s here” in between gentle shhhhh sounds. Of course after 10 mins crying there is no benefit to this and you’re just as well to pick them up to soothe them.
Anyway, since I have become the stay at home parent for Georgie, I’ve completely changed. If she wakes in the middle of the night, which she does about 3 or 4 times, I’m out of bed like a shot and into her room to look for the dummy which she has invariably lost. Popping it back in usually quietens her and she goes back to sleep but it still doesn’t make for a restful night for any of us. Plus at 7 months old she’s not going to learn to soothe herself if I keep doing this.
My wife pointed how I’ve changed the other day and I agree, it got me thinking on why. Is it because now I’m the primary carer and at home all the time I see it as my responsibility to soothe her. Or is it the fact that my wife has to get up very early to catch a train to work and I don’t want her to be woken by Georgie’s cries on the monitor. I suggested the latter to her but she pointed out that she’s already awake with me jumping out of bed like a jack in the box at the slightest sound from the monitor.
As a final thought it could just be that baby No.2 is always the forgotten child and while you’re always keen to do the right thing, follow the books etc with your first child, the second one tends just to fit in around your routine. You become a lot more slack about routines and following the books.
Who knows, either way I think I have to go back to basic training myself. In the long run we will all benefit as a family. I’d love to hear your thoughts if you have the same issues with your second child.